It's been a bad week . . .

Hey Everyone,

This is somewhat out of character for me, but after much debate, I’ve decided to share some thoughts.  I think that those of you who know me even in the virtual sense are well aware that I’m a dedicated genealogist who loves what I’ve been doing for almost four decades now.  I try my best to get the g-word out there and to contribute to the field that is both a passion and profession for me.  To this end, I have:

·       Given more than 135 monthly Honoring Our Ancestors grants to support genealogical projects of all stripes (May will be the 11th anniversary)

·       Furnished a decade of forensic consulting to the U.S. Army, locating thousands of family members of unaccounted for soldiers from past conflicts in support of the military’s “no man left behind” efforts

·       Provided RootsTelevision.com with roughly a thousand videos (including a number of original productions) to the genealogical community for free for 4.5 years

·       Founded the Unclaimed Persons volunteer group (now ably managed by Skip Murray, Janis Martin, and until recently, Keri Maurus) to assist coroners and medical examiners locate and notify next of kin for unclaimed decedents

·       Written five books and countless articles, as well as travelled coast to coast (and to several other countries), sharing what I’ve learned

·       Helped the FBI and NCIS with cold cases

·       Conducted research for roughly a dozen television shows that bring genealogy to a wider audience

I am a freelance researcher who has done this without corporate support or sponsorship because of my love of genealogy.  In many respects, I consider myself to be among the most fortunate in our field.  I’ve had unimaginable opportunities, but I also work incredibly hard.  To give you some sense, I averaged 19.5 hours/day, 7 days/week on the last TV show I worked on.  Mind you, I loved every minute, but there is definitely an element of “luck = opportunity + hard work” in my life.

So why am I saying this now?  Well, this week has been rough – one of those “no good deed goes unpunished” phases that we all experience from time to time.  First, I am sad to announce that I have decided that it’s in my best interests to close the Roots Television website.  Although to you the Roots Television name has meant a library of free genealogical videos, for me, the name has unfortunately been a continuing source of conflict since its creation.  At this time, I’ve decided that I can’t justify further efforts to sustain the name on top of the investment I’ve already made.  I know from traffic and streaming figures that many of you have spent untold hours watching the programming offered, so I sincerely hope that you’ve enjoyed it as much as I’ve enjoyed providing it.

Second, I know that many in the genealogical community have encountered the ugly commentary of my cyber-stalker this week.  Some of you have even received direct emails and phone calls.  Knowing that my fellow genealogists are excellent sleuths, I am going to make one suggestion: use your skills to research him.  Once you do, you will have a fuller appreciation of the situation and why I have chosen not to respond to his numerous, unfounded accusations.  Given who’s reading this, I realize it’s not necessary to share his name, and as you might imagine, I prefer not to.

To all of you who have been so supportive of me in so many ways, thank you for your friendship.  I look forward to another four decades (think I’m pushing my luck?!) in your company.

Warmly,

Megan

29 responses
Brava! Someone who has worked as much and as hard as you have, doesn't have to justify your standing in the genealogy community to anyone, let alone your attackers.
Megan,
You have done so much to get genealogy put into the front of everyone's mind. I think it is so important for people to learn where they have come from. I am honored to have you on my facebook page and everything you have done, ie: writing books, doing seminars on genealogy has helped so many people. I for one, have done genealogy over 20 years and it is something I never get tired of. Thank you for all the tips and tools you have provided.
Megan, I am most definitely "out of the loop", because I haven't known anything about any of this, but I just wanted to leave a quick comment to let you know how much I've appreciated you (and will continue to) and all that you've done for the genealogy community. I'm just "small-fry" in the realm of things, but you've never treated me as such. Each time we've communicated, you've been so respectful, open, and helpful. I hate to think of someone taking advantage of that, but it sounds like that might be the case.
It seems that no matter how trustworthy we are of each other within this community, there's always the opportunity for a "spoiler" to come along. I'm learning of more of these cases, of late, and I've personally been a victim, myself (but in a different way).
I pray that your situation turns out well, and that you will continue the hard work that you've been doing. I knew you gave a lot, but you've enlightened me more! Keep the faith, and I will keep you in my prayers.

Renate

Guided by the Ancestors
Meagan,
I'm obviously have no idea what happened, but am sorry. It seems quite grave. May continue leading by illuminating the genealogy strobe shining the light also at your feet to guide you. May your cyber stalker find a new hobby...tv perhaps?
Wow, I am sorry you have been having so much trouble.
Megan ~ I haven't seen anything from a jerk - so sorry you've been subjected to the bleeping idiot :( and so sorry you don't feel you can continue providing the Roots TV site. Is there a chance you could sell DVDs? That could be so helpful to those entering the field of family history research. I hate to think of all that knowledge just being ... *closed* ...

As far as the idiot, I feel sure your excellent reputation for hard work, dedication to the military unidentified and their families, and assistance to us, the baby genealogists :), will stand on its own. Those who know, know, and we will continue to spread that word.

There are really no words capable of describing what you've done for the families of the military. That sense of closure, that their loved ones are accounted for and "safe," is everything. My uncle (an Apollo flight controller) died near the summit of Mt. Aconcagua in 1973, and my grandfather would not accept the government's "he's far too high to bring down" - he wanted his son back. He took leave from his job, learned Spanish, and he and NASA basically pestered the S&R team in Argentina into attempting the highest-altitude recovery ever done (at the time). My uncle is now home in Kansas. I don't think my grandfather, and most of us, could have ever been able to process his loss if we couldn't erase that image of him lying near the top of that huge mountain, forever cold and unprotected. And I imagine that's very similar to what the military families go through, and you have helped countless be able to move on, and helped countless mothers and fathers let go of the fear that their child is lying somewhere, cold and unprotected from the elements.

Everything you have done and do, out of the goodness of your heart, does not go unappreciated.

Please let us know when you are feeling better about things. I for one would greatly miss your presence in my travels online :) I may not post comments often, but I always try to integrate your advice and experiences into my work.

Take care - Deb

Megan, I saw that posting, and did nothing other than considered the source. Horrible! I know you feel you have to, but you really don't owe anyone an explanation of all of the wonderful things that you do! It is always the proverbial rotten apple that spoils the bunch, or the squeaky wheel that is loudest and gets heard, but it is the truely dedicated who are admired and honored. Hang in there!!
Megan,

Your dedication and generosity ot the genealogy community speaks for itself. As stated in a previous comment, no justification is necessary!

Ian

We all know your body of work, and it speaks for itself. You don't owe anybody any explanation, and anybody with a brain and some basic research skills can figure out what the situation is.

I went through experiences like this when I was in HR. They sucked. Once I had to get a restraining order. I sympathize more than I can even express.

I'm sad about Roots Television, but sometimes you have to make painful decisions. That's part of being a smart businesswoman.

I've deleted a couple of comments that were left on the DNA video on YouTube, so I have an idea what you're talking about. I don't think I've ever moved so fast to delete comments ... and block the "person" making those comments.
I'm so sorry to hear about RootsTelevision. What a fabulous resource it has been.
You have done an immense amount for genealogy and genealogists everywhere. We have your back.
I'd read your books, then read an article you wrote that told me about facebook back in 2008. So it was you who got me on facebook, then Geneabloggers, then blogging, and the list goes on and on. I'm sorry you've been attacked...but you have thousands of genealogists in your corner, Megan! Thank you for all you've given us!
Megan

So sorry for all you problems. Keep your chin up and carry on with the great work you have always done.

Take Care,
Pattie

Megan,
So sorry to hear you are having these problems. Obviously, you do not deserve this nonsense. There are many of us who value your friendship and appreciate your multitudes of contributions to the world of genealogy. Keep your head high !
To day it's been a bad week is a bit of an understatement. I am sorry to hear about Roots Television - it couldn't have been an easy decision to make but the choice was wise and, in the end, will prove to be the right decision. Your body of work speaks for itself and no justification needed - what also speaks for itself is the wonderful, funny, and generous person who has inspired and helped learn who they are and where they have come from. Keep that thought along with the conviction that karma does not let bad deeds go unpunished.

Towanda.

Cindy

Megan,

I am horrified to think that someone has pushed you to this.
Please don't let that person drive you from all that you do for the genealogical community. You do so much for all of us. And, I am sure that you don't hear thank you often enough. At least, I know that I have not said thank you as you deserve. It is terrible , the harm that one warped person can inflict. What ever it was, you didn't have it coming.

Dear Megan,

I don't know exactly what happened, but from your post I can imagine. I also believe you don't owe any explanation to anyone. Your work, dedication and generosity speak for themselves. But I do think that posting your personal note here is a very nice gesture, because it gives to all of us who are part of your virtual community an opportunity to stand up and show our support to you.

Ksenija

Hello Megan, sorry to hear your news - i really am.

I hope that today you can think about *you* and where *you* want to be, and hopefully how you can move forward in your work.

Your body of work is incredible - the things that you've done for other people, for genealogy, and for our ancestors. Such brilliant brilliant work. To see your hard work and reputation come under attack by an imposter is sickening. I've not come into contact (knowingly) with this harassing individual, but it must have been disheartening to find out what he's been doing.

As for Roots TV, it will be a great loss to established and beginner genealogists - as video is such an important learning device. I hope, that the genealogist in you, ensures that a copy of the data is kept somewhere safe so that one day, some time in the future, genealogists can rediscover the resources again.

best wishes, Andrew

Few folks inside or outside of the genealogical community know you better than I do, Megan. Having spent hundreds of hours with you developing projects, including the Ancestors series and Roots Television, and seeing first hand day after day, year after year the absolute dedication and impeccable professionalism with which you tackle and accomplish virtually every opportunity and challenge you meet, I find it absolutely unthinkable that anyone would stoop so low as to launch the attacks you mention. They are either completely mad or don't know you at all. I have simply never worked with a more dedicated, generous, professional and downright SMART person than you, and your track record speaks for itself. I have no doubt you will continue to do many amazing things. Roots Television was a grand (albeit expensive!) adventure that blessed lives, and I'm grateful to have been part of it. Can't wait to see what the future brings! You're always one step ahead of the curve, and I'll be looking for your next Blink! Marcy
Dear Megan,

I am so sorry to hear about this latest bump in your road. I hear from where you are coming as I have also had a stalker and it is scary. It is a shame that one person can do so much damage and stop something that has meant so much to so many. Roots Televiion helped untold millions people get started in their own adventure of family search.
Be forever proud of all of your work. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.
Jeanne

Megan, I can only say ditto to all the above comments. You have inspired me beyond words, You are one of the main reasons I have a facebook page. I have always wondered how one person could produce the huge body of work you have. Now I know it was you working as hard as three people. You have my gratitude for the wonderful journey you have lead us on. Thank you.
I was not aware of what you were going through! Many and most admire you and your work. Your work speaks for itself. I had not watched your free videos on RootsTelevision.com but if somehow you can charge a fee for us family researchers to see them, I believe you will still have a big following. I would have helped funding. All blessings to you, and you will get through this.
Something almost indefinable drives genealogists to do what we do, strive to do it in the best way possible, and support others in their work. You have been not only an inspiration and embodiment of professionalism during your public career, you are also a caring private person driven by the same spirit that we as a group all share, no matter what our level of expertise. Besides, we only have each other to really understand or even care about the minutia...stand tall and proud, Megan. And thank you.
Megan, I can only say that I am unaware of what's been going on. So very sorry that this "bad apple" has upset you so!! You will always be a genealogy super star to me!

Regina

Megan,
This is all (bad) news to me. It is shocking that someone such as you should have to spend any time or energy on such a person. In my opinion, you are THE most inspiring genealogist in the entire field and I have immeasurable respect for you. I am sure your amazing career will continue and flourish as you so deserve and this will only be a minor blip in yours and all of our memories. Thank you for all you have done and continue to do for our passion.
CeCe
Megan, We met at the Pinallas Genealogy seminar, and I have so much respect for you and all the work you are doing in genetic genealogy. I believe your ability's are a gift from God. I know whenever one door closes, another one opens. I know God will continue to have great things for you. You are such a wonderful knowledgeable, "genie". Thank-you for all you are doing. Janice
Megan,
Thank you for all you have done to advance genetic genealogy. It is so sad that some people can not stand for others to be successful. I am so glad I got to meet you at the conference in Louisville, KY, last fall. All the best to you in the future and know you have many supporters who will always have you in their prayers.
Megan,

What to say? This lady IS genealogy. She listens to the voices, and brings the stories and the people home. Dear friend, I hope you know how much you are treasured and loved. Take your time - we are all here for you...

Blessings,
Kate

Megan,

While I'm really going to miss Roots Television, I wholeheartedly appreciate everything you have done to raise awareness in the field of genealogy and the preservation of history in general. You have inspired so many genealogists and have been pivotal in bringing family research to the mainstream. For that, we ALL are indebted to you. Thanks for all you do!